The feeling of being trapped is dreadful. It is the things that nightmares are made of. In fact I dreamt of being trapped last night and literally woke in a cold sweat.
We get trapped in all sorts of ways; in a bad relationship, in a bad financial arrangement, in a lifestyle or a set of habits that don’t work for us, in a job that we hate. Being locked into something that we can’t seem to find a way out of is extremely distressing.
Psychologists know the pain that any lack of autonomy (ability to choose) can bring.
One scenario that I witness on too many occasions is that of the business owner, who sets out in business to pursue her dreams and eventually finds herself trapped in a business which she no longer enjoys, and which no longer provides either the income or the lifestyle she dreamed about.
Instead of the business being fun and fulfilling it becomes onerous and a drudge. The energy with which we initially set off is replaced with a fatigue and weariness. The dream literally becomes the nightmare and with this particular version of being trapped, getting free seems even more impossible because of the money, time and pride that has already been invested. Getting out from under will involve a loss of face and people who start up businesses are special and proud people.
The mental anguish and detriment to our mental health in this situation is deeply damaging. We seem to be in a never-ending downward spiral and so is the business. Each making the other worse.
It is possible to get out of this tailspin, but to do so we will need help. This situation tends to happen when we get out of our depth; when our ambition isn’t matched by our knowledge or abilities. When we aren’t either thinking or performing at a high enough level.
In these situations we tend to close down and turn inwards. We stop trying new things and stick with the old ways, but what worked for us yesterday isn’t necessarily going to work for us today. What got you here isn’t going to get you there.
If your answers aren’t working it is time to find new answers.
This is where coaching becomes so important. A good coach will help you see what you can’t see right now and will help you develop the systems, skills and disciplines to take you and your business to another level. A good coach won’t tell you what to do or give you the answers but a great coach will help you to find the solutions and the methods that will work for you and for the business. He will help you find the key to the prison and put you on the open road to freedom and joy.
I am on a mission to help business leaders get better financial results with less stress and more time to enjoy it and I promise by committing to working with me, you will feel better, more hopeful, more optimistic, more confident and less stressed. You will grow. Your business will grow in sales, profits and value. You will have a happier, more committed and engaged team and your quality of life will improve. www.kinnery.co.uk